Chrissy
TW (Trigger warning) // Discussions of Eating Disorders
“Women who are unapologetically themselves inspire me. Women who own what they want, especially when it’s something that society tells us, isn’t ok. To this woman I say, keep going, you’re inspiring more people than you know.”
Chrissy battled an eating disorder for over a decade and worked valiantly to overcome it. She has now committed her profession to assisting others to overcome their own obstacles so that they can prosper. Chrissy is specifically committed to helping other women in healing and overcoming society’s unreasonable physical standards. She is a strong and selfless leader who navigates live with compassion and excitement. She is an ambitious advocate, dreamer, and coach who never gives up. Meet Chrissy. This is her story.
P: Please introduce yourself!
C: I’m Chrissy Ajisafe, I’m the middle child of 13 siblings. I was born in Lagos, Nigeria, raised in England and now I live in Los Angeles.
I help dreamers build a life and business that they no longer need to escape from. I’m also a coach for Business By Design, by James Wedmore 😍
P: Describe or define yourself in your own words.
C: Oooh describe myself. I’m a lover AND a fighter. I see myself like an excitable puppy who just wants to be held and loved. I’m generally a pretty direct person, which is why coaching is so great for me. Authenticity is my love language. I’m consistently changing, and reacquaint myself to myself, daily.
P: What is your favourite thing about yourself?
C: There are so many!! I really love my level of self awareness, my sense of humour, and how much I love people. I really see people and it’s easy for me to love anyone. Ok well almost anyone 😆
The beautiful thing is when I struggle to love someone, it’s never about them it’s always about me, and there’s so much growth in that.
P: Tell us a story. Have you had an experience that has defined you or made you stronger?
C: Gosh, isn’t life just a series of experiences that make us stronger? Whether they’re good or bad, who’s to say?
I started my first diet in my early 20’s because I believed the only thing I could control was how I looked and surely if I had the most perfect body then I’d have the most perfect life? (Side note, isn’t it interesting that we’re taught there’s only 1 type of body that’s beautiful?)
This started a 12 year journey with Bulimia, which I healed myself from with a lottttttt of trial and error. It took changing my entire belief system and it’s still the greatest gift I’ve ever given myself.
I now get to help other women with this same struggle.
This experience taught me that I can do anything and anything is possible.
P: What is one piece of advice you’d give your younger self?
C: STOP TRYING TO BE A GOOD PERSON AND LIVE YOUR LIFE!!! Being a good person is allllll about what others think of you. I made so many decisions based on other people, what they would think of me and it leads to nothing but misery. You’re not responsible for anyone but yourself.
The more you can genuinely love each and every part of yourself the more accessible love for others is.
Allow yourself to risk looking stupid for what you really want.
P: What does being a woman mean to you?
C: I love this question.
To me, being a woman is knowing that everything that I already am, is perfect. Perfect means complete, I need nothing else to be complete.
It’s knowing that the consciousness that created the universe dwells within me, which means I too have the power of Mother Nature. I’m connected to the earth and that’s how I know how powerful I am.
Being a woman means that I’m magical (hello we have a life giving portal in between our legs).
Being a woman to me, means freedom for all that I am. I don’t have to hide any of my feelings or emotions because they’re all part of the game.
The feminine energy is like the sea.
The sea can be soft and calm and it can rage and drown out an entire city.
If anyone thinks a woman is weak, it’s because they don’t understand feminine energy. We’ve been taught to disregard and ignore feminine energy, because if women really knew all that we are, a lot of things would change.
P: Who is one woman that inspires you? What would you say to her if she were here now?
C: Women who are unapologetically themselves inspire me. Women who own what they want, especially when it’s something that society tells us, isn’t ok.
To this woman I say, keep going, you’re inspiring more people than you know. Thank you for showing us what it looks like, thank you for being a source of inspiration to us all.
If you had asked me this question a year ago, I would have a different answer. I used to be inspired by women who sacrificed themselves for other people. Who continually put others before themselves. I realise now that’s conditioning. Women are raised to believe that’s our role, to nurture everyone and put everyone else before ourselves.
This is no longer something I’m interested in.